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Jul 15 11

To Excel or not to excel is a personal choice

by Kalpana Jaggi

TO EXCEL OR NOT TO EXCEL IS A PERSONAL CHOICE

A tourist once visted a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making, an idol of God. Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby.

Surprised , he aked the sculptor Do you need two statues of the same idol ?

“No said the sculptor without looking up. We need only one , but the first one got damaged at the finishing stage.

The gentleman examined the idol and found, no apparent damage.

Where is the damage ? he asked.

“There is a scratch on the nose of the idol” replied the sculptor still busy with his work.

“Where are you going to install the idol ?”

The sculptor replied that would be installed on, a pillar twenty feet high.

“If the idol is installed that high, then who is going to know, that there is a scratch on the nose”? the genleman asked….

The sculptor stopped his work, look up at the, gentleman smiled and said I will know it”

The desire to excel is exclusive of the fact whether someone else appreciates it or not.

“Excellence ” is a drive from inside not outside…

Excellence is not for someone else to notice but for our own satisfaction and efficiency. It is a choice that we make.

Jul 4 11

by Kalpana Jaggi

Before you start your own business, take this entrepreneur test
By Harvey Mackay

I have never met anyone who left his or her job, whether fired or voluntarily, who started his or her own business — and regretted it.  What these people always regret is not having done it sooner.  This includes people who eventually failed and had to go back to work for someone else.

Afraid to try something new?  Most of us are.  But our regrets will invariably be for what we didn’t do rather than for what we did.

So are you ready to be an entrepreneur?  Do you have the right stuff?  Before you take the plunge and start your own business, take this test:

Do you need a new idea?
It isn’t the quality of the ideas you have that will determine whether you are successful, it’s the qualities you bring to those ideas.  New ideas are wonderful if you can come up with them.  But your best chance of success is working hard, using established values and ideas if necessary.

Who are your customers?
“Everyone” is the wrong answer.  If your concept is going to succeed, you have to identify a realistic target audience, big enough to be profitable yet small enough for you to service it thoroughly.

Why should anyone want to buy your product or service?
Find an unmet, unanswered need by identifying a market segment that isn’t being served or is being served inadequately.  For example, take the post office which served everybody, but unprofitably.  Then FedEx and UPS jumped in and redefined the industry.  They are profitable, while the post office is bleeding red ink.

Who is your competition?
If there is a market for your product or service, someone is supplying that market.  He may be using another product.  Or she may be using a nearly identical product that you can beat on quality, performance or service.  Either way, the existence of competition is a mixed blessing.  It doesn’t really matter how many others are doing something similar.  All you have to do is find a way to do it better.

What advantages does your organization have over the competition?
Management?  People?  Product?  Service?  Financial strength?  Reputation?  Recognition?  Marketing?  One is not enough.  Sometimes all are not enough.  But you can usually beat better-financed competition with superior customer advantages.

Do you have a business plan?
If you haven’t gotten around to that, make one before you do anything else.  It serves several very useful purposes.  It forces you to think your way through the startup process and your long-range goals.  It’s also a document you’ll need if you plan on getting outside financing from anyone except your relatives.  If it isn’t persuasive and effective to an independent outside businessperson, that might tell you something about your real chances for success.  Your plan should include a situation analysis; objectives; target audiences; mission statement; objective; strategy and tactics; execution; budget; measurement; and time and action calendar.

What do your banker and lawyer say? Bankers see and evaluate business plans all day long.  That’s their business.  They might even have seen one like yours.  And while you’re at it, ask if they would lend you money to finance your business.  Attorneys can help you avoid pitfalls.  They are there to protect you.

What does your mentor say?
Find a “tiger,” preferably someone who’s been around the block.  Retired professionals are a marvelous resource for this kind of advice.  I can’t urge you enough to check out SCORE.  They have access to people with every imaginable kind of business experience. They also have the time, patience, skill, wisdom and understanding to help and sometimes, just to listen.  They are invaluable at helping you expand your network of contacts.

Have you done an honest self-survey?
Do you really want to do this or are you just trying to escape your own problems?  Be brutally honest and make sure the problem is not you.  If you’re going to be an entrepreneur, you have to believe in yourself more than you believe in anything else in the world.

What will you do if you fail?
Don’t be discouraged if you do fail.  Few entrepreneurs make it the first time they try.  Failure teaches you not to fear failure because if you can survive it to fight again, you haven’t failed.  You have only heightened your appreciation of success.

Mackay’s Moral: If you’re looking for a big opportunity, look for a big challenge.

 

May 31 11

Discipline is the order of the day

by Kalpana Jaggi
Discipline is the order of the day
By Harvey Mackay

Most people aim to do right; they just fail to pull the trigger.  For whatever reason, they just don’t have the wherewithal to finish the job.  They are lacking discipline.

“Discipline is the foundation upon which all success is built.  Lack of discipline inevitably leads to failure,” said the late motivational speaker Jim Rohn.

It doesn’t matter whether you are pursuing success in business, sports, the arts, or life in general.  Hope is not an option.  The difference between wishing and accomplishing is discipline.

Bob Knight, college basketball’s winningest coach, said:  “It has always been my thought that the most important single ingredient to success in athletics or life is discipline.  I have many times felt that this word is the most ill-defined in all of our language.  My definition of the word is as follows:  1. Do what has to be done; 2. When it has to be done; 3. As well as it can be done; and 4. Do it that way all the time.”

Julie Andrews put it a little differently.  She said, “Some people regard discipline as a chore.  For me, it is a kind of order that sets me free to fly.”

Arthur Rubenstein, one of the greatest pianists of all time said:  “If I miss one day of practice, I notice it.  If I miss two days of practice, the critics notice it.  If I miss three days of practice, the audience notices.”

Discipline is all about sitting down and setting goals, figuring out a schedule to achieve those goals, and then following your plan.

The formula is the same for athletes, business people, and students:  have a no-nonsense attitude, work hard and improve every day.  Arrive early and stay late if that’s what it takes to get the job done.   I always say to go the extra mile, which is one stretch of the highway where there are seldom any traffic jams.  And few people are trying to pass you.

It’s the old adage:  the more you put in the more you get out.

“You can’t get much done in life if you only work on the days when you feel good,” said Jerry West, the former Los Angeles Lakers great who was nicknamed “Mr. Clutch.”

Health and fitness clubs get very busy at the beginning of each year.  New Year’s resolutions result in large numbers of people joining, wanting to get fit or lose weight. What happens in February, March and April?  The number of people at the club starts to thin out but the well-intentioned folks who lacked discipline didn’t thin down.

Good intentions aren’t enough.  People have good intentions when they set a goal to do something, but then they miss a deadline or a workout.   Suddenly it gets a lot easier to miss again and again and again.

Golfing great Byron Nelson said:  “The only way one can become proficient at anything is self-discipline and dedication.  The people who succeed are the ones that really do not let personal feelings get in their way from giving their all in whatever they choose to do.  The superstar golfers are people who are willing to do and give a little bit more than the others who do not succeed.”

The legendary football coach Vince Lombardi maintained:  “A player’s got to know the basics of the game and how to play his position.  Next, you’ve got to keep him in line.”

That’s discipline and what every good manager must have.  It’s not enough as a manager to teach your employees how to do the work.  You also have to provide the motivation that keeps them moving forward.  Perhaps most importantly, a good manager must model self-discipline.

To me it is better to prepare and prevent instead of repair and repent.

I like the way Jim Rohn described discipline:  “It is the bridge between thought and accomplishment … the glue that binds inspiration to achievement … the magic that turns financial necessity into the creation of an inspired work of art.

“Discipline is the master key that unlocks the door to wealth and happiness, culture and sophistication, high self-esteem and high accomplishment and the accompanying feelings of pride, satisfaction and success.  Discipline will do much for you.  More importantly, though, is what it will do to you.  It will make you feel terrific about yourself.”

We need to exercise our “Will power” and let go of “won’t power”.

 

May 13 11

Ego Trips have dangerous destinations

by Kalpana Jaggi

By Harvey Mackay
Talent is God-given, be humble.  Fame is man-given, be thankful.  Conceit is self-given, be careful.

This anonymous saying is often attributed to legendary college basketball coach John Wooden.  And he surely hit the nail on the head.

I have a different way of talking about conceit in my speeches.  If you think you’re indispensable, I tell my audiences, stick your finger in a bowl of water and watch the hole it leaves when you pull it out.

This lesson was drilled into my head by my parents, who made sure their brash son knew what they thought about conceited people.  Perhaps this is where my fondness for aphorisms comes from!  I can still hear them saying:  “Don’t hang your hat higher than you can reach.”  “Swallow your pride occasionally, it’s non-fattening!”  And my dad’s stern advice, “It is far better to have other people say how great you are.”

Like many kids, I was known to be a little cocky.  But I stopped short of the ego trip of one of my childhood friends, who used to send congratulatory messages to his parents on his birthday.

Throughout my life, I have observed what happens when heads swell and egos exceed capacity.  The “me-first” attitude is met with “not you again” resistance.  Conceit and success are not compatible.  There is no shame is taking pride in achievements or position.  But nobody gets to the top alone.  It’s only lonely at the top if you forget all the people you met along the way and fail to acknowledge their contributions to your success.

My son is a film producer and director in Hollywood, the land of large egos and monumental conceit.  He shared a story about a movie actor who had bored the ears off his lunch companion by talking incessantly about his recent movie.  Suddenly the actor stopped and said, “But I’m talking all about myself.  Let’s talk about you.  How did you like my latest movie?”

Ouch!  Is that the best he could do?

Then there’s the story about the self-important chief executive officer who arrived at the hotel ballroom where his company’s annual meeting was being held, only to be stopped at the door by a burly uniformed guard.

“Just wait here,” said the guard, “until I check the list.”

“But,” sputtered the CEO, “don’t you know who I am?”

“No, sir,” said the guard, “but I will go and find out and let you know.”

I can tell you right now who the fellow is — a person whose universe is very small, because it has no room for others.

“A person completely wrapped up in himself maks a small package,” wrote Harry Emerson Fosdick, an American clergyman.  “The great day comes when a man begins to get himself off his hands.  He has lived, let us say, in a mind like a room surrounded by mirrors.

“Every way he turned he saw himself.  Now, however, some of the mirrors change to windows.  He can see through them to objective outlooks that challenge his interests.  He begins to get out of himself — no longer the prisoner of self-reflections but a free man in a world where persons, causes, truths, and values exist, worthful for their own sakes.  Thus to pass from a mirror-mind to a mind with windows is an essential element in the development of a real personality.  Without that experience no one ever achieves a meaningful life.”

Think of it this way:  When business is good, who gets the credit?  When the chips are down, whom do you blame?

Start by looking in Fosdick’s mirror!  If you see only yourself, keep looking.  Look closely, and see if you don’t recognize people who shaped you as a young child, throughout your education, and at every step in your career.

My list is very long.  I am fortunate that these people cared enough to provide me with a reality check when they saw me getting a little too big for my britches.

The conceited new rookie was pitching his first big league baseball game.  He walked the first five men he faced, and the manager took him out of the game.  The rookie slammed his glove on the ground as he walked off and yelled:  “Can you believe it?  The jerk takes me out just when I have a no-hitter going.”  Time to look into the mirror!

The fact remains that Conceit is a strange disease.  It makes everyone sick except the person who’s got it.

 

May 1 11

Two Choices

by Kalpana Jaggi

Two Choices:

At a fund raising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: ‘When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do; where is the natural order of things in my son?’

Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, ‘Do you think they’ll let me play?’ Shay’s father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay’s father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, ‘We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.’

Shay struggled over to the team’s bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father’s joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first base man’s head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, ‘Shay, run to first! Run to first!’ Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, ‘Run to second, run to second!’ Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitchers intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-base man’s head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, ‘Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay’

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, ‘Run to third! Shay; run to third!’
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, ‘Shay, run home! Run home!’ Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

‘That day’, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, ‘the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.

Shay didn’t make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We can all choose to make a difference.
We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the ‘natural order of things.’ So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice: Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it’s least fortunate amongst them.

Life is all about choices we make….

Apr 29 11

by Kalpana Jaggi

Believe in yourself even when no one else does
By Harvey Mackay

“Some people succeed because they are destined to, but most people succeed because they are determined to.”

When Henry Ford said those oh-so-true words, he wasn’t just talking about himself — even though he is the epitome of determination.  He went belly-up several times, but never lost sight of his goal.  He believed in himself and in what he was doing.  In the end, he was so right.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t accomplish your goals.  Who says you’re not tougher, better, harder working, smarter and more able than your competition?  It doesn’t matter if they say you can’t do it.  The only thing that matters is if you say it.  If you believe in yourself, there’s hardly anything you can’t accomplish.

Most actors fail before they succeed.  Gene Hackman and Dustin Hoffman were both voted by their acting classmates as the “Least Likely to Succeed.”  And how many of those classmates can boast an Academy Award?  Woody Allen failed in both the motion picture production classes he attended in college.  Lucky for him, his film audiences gave him better grades.  Harrison Ford was told by movie executives that he simply didn’t have what it takes to be a star.  Of course, he proved them wrong by starring in the Star Wars trilogy, the Indiana Jones series, and a string of movies that have grossed over $6 billion!

Some of the most successful singers in history have overcome bumpy starts as well. Diana Ross and the Supremes were flops on their first nine records, but the tenth took them to the top of the charts.  After only one performance, Elvis Presley was fired in 1954 by Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, who told him, “You ain’t going nowhere, son.  You ought to go back to driving a truck.”  One recording company executive told The Beatles, “We don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out.”

What part of “no” didn’t these people understand?  The part that said “no confidence.”  They had every confidence that they could achieve and succeed.

Business legends are no different.  We all know about inspirational success stories like Bill Gates, Col. Harlan Sanders and R.H. Macy.

But do you know about Soichiro Honda?  Many of you have driven his cars, used his lawn mowers and ridden his motorcycles.  Honda was turned down by Toyota Motor Corporation for a job as an engineer, so he started making scooters and finally started his own company.  Honda Corporation says:  “We see the world not as it is, but as it could be.  We see the world through the eyes of dreamers.  Because we are a company founded by a dreamer.  And we are a company built on dreams.”

As I’ve said so many times, if we want to triple our success ratio … we might have to triple our failure rate.

Surround yourself with top-quality people and truly listen to their input.  Don’t wait until it’s too late to change.  Start to take the true measure of your success now.  What do you possess that you can offer to other people, to your community, to the world?

To simply ask the question, “How can I make a difference?” is to answer it, because the answer is to never let yourself stop asking the question.

I’ve asked myself that question hundreds of times.  Maybe thousands.  And any time I feel like quitting I just look at a framed poster I have hanging in our office:

  • He failed in business in ’31.
  • He ran as a state legislator and lost in ’32.
  • He tried business again in ’33 and failed again.
  • His sweetheart died in ’35.
  • He had a nervous breakdown in ’36.
  • He ran for state elector in ’40 after he regained his health.
  • He was defeated for Congress in ’43, defeated again for Congress in ’48, defeated when he ran for the Senate in ’55 and defeated for vice presidency of the United States in ’56.
  • He ran for Senate again in ’58 and lost.

This man never quit.  He kept trying till the last.  In 1860, this man — Abraham Lincoln — was elected president of the United States.

Moral: You must believe if you want to achieve.

 

Feb 17 11

Let us create our own future

by Kalpana Jaggi

A lot of times we all get one “question” in our mind: What do we do with our future? As long as our health is fine we only have two choices:
(i) We can just choose to survive and keep doing what ever we have been doing forever or just choose to do nothing

or

(ii) we can choose to do something to be effective and succeed and share our success or money or time with others around us.

To be effective in our lives we need to know that:
(a) We all are uniques and special,
(b) we just need to enlarge our vision,
(c) retrain our brain,
(d) attract the good around us,
(e) engage in positive and meaningful relationships
(f) believe in ourselves,
(g) plan all the details,
(g) move out of our comfort zone,
(h) let go of the past
and most important
(i) stay away from negative influences

In case we choose to do something to be effective and to succeed, we need to commit to some focused goals. Anything is possible because inside of all of us there is a huge untapped potential at all phases of our life. As we grow older we have wisdom that we can share with young people. And for the young people their is a whole world of possibilities waiting for them to make choices.

Lets choose carefully what do we want to do with our lives; We only have one life to live….!!

Feb 10 11

Happy Valentines Day!!

by Kalpana Jaggi

Love is known to be an overwhelming, all -consuming , intense and a passionate emotion.

Just how intense can love get?

No one can really answer this and examples of expression of intense love are very rare. Whenever one talks about the depth of love, the intensity of passion, two name almost immediately come to mind- Laila and Majnu.

The love story of Laila and Majnu is like a legend in love stories. Even today, people know them as Laila Majnu: the and in between is missing.
They were two in flesh, but one in spirit!

It is based on the real story of a young man called Qays ibn al- Mullawah from northern, Arabian Peninsula in the Umayyad era during, the 7th century.

This love story of “Laila and Majnu” is an eternal one albeit a tragic one.

Laila was a beautiful girl born in a rich family. Being no less than a princess , she was expected to marry a wealthy boy and live in, grandeur and splendor, But love is born from the heart, it knows no rules, Laila fell in love with Qays and he too loved her deeply. Qays was a, poet and belonged to the same tribe as Laila.

He composed splendid love poems and dedicated them to his lady -love , telling them, his love for her and mentioning her name often. Qays’ friends knew about his affair with Laila and they often teased and made fun of his love. But such taunts had no effect on Qays, He was deeply in love with Laila and it was her thoughts alone that possesed his mind for all time.

It had been for quite sometime that Qays toyed, with the idea of seeking Laila’s hand in marriage from her parents. One day he went up to them and put the big question before them. But Qays was a poor lad, And when he asked for Laila’s hand in marriage, her father promptly refused him as he didn’t want his daughter to get married to someone below her status. It would mean a scandal for Laila according to Arab traditions.

As fate would have it , the two lovers were banished from seeing each other.
Soon after Laila’s parents get her married to a wealthy man and she went on to live in a big mansion.

When Qays heard of her marriage he was heartbroken, He fled the tribe camp and wandered in the surrounding desert. His family eventually gave up on his return and left food for him in the wilderness. He could sometime be seen reciting poetry to himself or, writing Laila’s name in the sand with a stick,
Day and night he pined for her.

Laila was no better, Seperated from Qays, she was shattered in mind body and spirit. Not long afterwards in 688 AD, she moved to Iraq, with her husband, where she fell ill and died eventually.

When Qays’ friends came to know about Laila’s death they went looking for him all over to give him the news, but they could not find him.

Not much later their search for him came to an end when Qays was found dead in the wilderness near Laila’s grave. On a rock near the grave he had carved three verses of poetry , which are the last three verses ascribed to him.

Qays went mad for his love ; for this reason he came to be called Majnu, or Majnun Layla’ which means “Driven mad by Layla”.

Such kind of love is hard to find in today’s materialistic world, where emotions fall short of one’s expectations and are easily sacrificed over petty issues. So if ever you love someone, try to love like these two did. Even today lover swear by their name, it is their love affair that has made Laila and Majnu immoral in the accounts of great love stories.

Happy Valentine Day Everyone!

Jan 17 11

love

by natashaxx

Love.

Just a word, till someone comes along and gives it meaning.

Until then, don’t misuse it.

Four letters, worth 1 million smiles, tears, and regrets.

Leave before being left.

Listen but do not believe.

Kiss, but do not feel.

Anyone who is worth it, will do everything in their power to change that.

Love is an emotion much too overrated for teenagers.

Heartbreak is an emotion that describes teenagers.

The hearts you are drawing on your paper, don’t mean anything.

Do you really think they are thinking about you?

They aren’t.

Do you really think they are contemplating whether to text you right now or not?

They’re not.

Do you believe that somehow, someway, they will fall in love with you?

They won’t.

They aren’t your Nemo.

If it happens it happens.

If they cheated on you, it doesn’t mean there Is something wrong with you.

If you are single, it doesn’t mean you are ugly.

They just weren’t worth it.

So forget about them.

Live in the moment.

Have no regrets.

Because at one point, that was exactly what you wanted to do.

You are just a teenager. A teenager who is trying to find love.

So experiment, laugh, date, try and find who you are.

Maybe you’re weird.

Then maybe, just maybe, you’ll find another person who is just as weird.

That is love.

Love is when you find a person with mutual weirdness.

Then don’t worry about “what if’s”, and just smile because reality is better than your dreams.

You will know when it is real when;

You don’t have to worry about being left.

You believe every single word they say.

And your kisses are full of real passion.

It’s just one word, until someone comes along and gives it meaning.

Love

Jan 11 11

लोग क्या कहेंगे ?

by dev sharma

लाइफ एक रेस है तेज नही भागोगे तो कोई तुम्हे कुचल के आगे निकल जायेगा ” 3idiot
आज के इस प्रतियोगी युग में हर ब्यक्ति यही सोचता है और आगे बिना सोचे समझे , बिना चाहे , या चाहे दोड़ता जा रहा है ! हर कोई नम्बर के पीछे भाग रहा , कोई कम नंबर आने पर रो रहा है , कोई कुर्सी पर अपना नंबर लगा रहा है ऐसा लगता है कि दुनिया बस नंबर के लिए ही बनी है
आज के परिवेश में हर तरफ नंबर की मारामारी है
मैं एक सामान्य परिवार से हूँ और में पढ़ा लिखा हूँ लेकिन कुछ मजबूरियों और परिस्थितियों के कारण में अपना अध्ययन आगे नही बड़ा सका , मेरा सपना था कि में एक डॉक्टर बनू लेकिन में नही बन पाया , आज में चाहता हूँ कि मेरा बच्चा डॉक्टर बने , अब ये जरुरी नही कि बच्चा डॉक्टर बनाना चाहता है कि नही ,
ये तो सिर्फ उदहारण(example ) है
ज्यादातर माता पिता कुछ इस तरह ही सोचते हैं कि उनका लड़का या लड़की जो वो नही कर पाए वो करे या उनके पडोसी या फिर रिश्तेदार जैसा बने !
बहुत कम माँ बाप अपने बच्चों के के पसंदीदा विषय के बारे में पूछते है नहीं वो लोग कभी उनकी रुचियों (hobbies)और शौक के बारे में गौर करते है नही सोचते हैं
और अपनी मर्जी को बिना सोचे समझे उसके ऊपर थोप देते हैं
और वो अबोध न चाहते हुए भी वो करता है जिस के बारे में कभी उसने कभी नही सोचा था
और इस कारण उस बालक या बालिका जंहा होना था वंहा न होते हुए वो अनचाही जगह चला जाता है
वैसे ज्यादातर परिणाम नकारात्मक(negative) ही आते हैं
नकारात्मक में ज्यादातर छात्र असफल(unsuccessful) ही रहते हैं या अपने बारे हमेशा नकारात्मक ही सोचते रहते हैं
जब कोई छात्र असफल होता है तो उसे सबसे ज्यादा डर(feared) लगता है
उसका पडोसी (neighbor)क्या कहेगा ?
या फिर उसका रिश्तेदार(relative) क्या कहेगा ?
उसका दोस्त (friend or classmate)क्या कहेगा ?
या फिर उसके पिता जी क्या कहेंगे ?
या फिर वो अपने घर और रिश्तेदारों के सामने मुह कैसे दिखायेगा ?और वो उस गलत रास्ते(wrong way) पर चला जाता है जिसके बारे मैं किसी युवक को जाने की सोचना भी नही चाहिए
यदि अभिभावक(parents) अपने बच्चे की रूचि या फिर उसके शौक पर थोडा ध्यान दें और बालक या बालिका की रूचि के अनुसार उसे उसी क्षेत्र में भेज दें, तो हो सकता है कि जिस बुलंदी से आप प्रभावित है आप के घर में उस बुलंदी से ऊपर ही कुछ हो
क्यूँ कि विश्वनाथन आनंद जब छोटा था तो उसकी मां ने उसके शौक को देखा और ६ साल कि उम्र से ही उसे शतरंज खेलने को दी आज विश्वनाथन आनंद विश्व में नंबर १ है

अब मेरा कहना उन मेरे भाइयों से है ये समाज है कुछ न कुछ कहेगा ही यदि आप अच्छा करते है तो ये आपको आँखों में बिठा लेगा और यदि आप कंही असफल होते हैं तो कुछ न कुछ कह्गा , लेकिन हमे उनकी बातो पर नही जाना चाइए और आगे प्रयास करना चाहिए
महान कवि मैथलीशरण गुप्त ने कहा की
” नर हो न निराश करो मन को ”

आज दुनिया में कई उदाहरण हैं यदि वो भी असफल हो के या परिस्थित के सामने हथियार डाल देते तो आज वो सफल के शिखर पर नही होते , लेकिन उन्होंने हर हर परिस्थिति का सामना किया और आज उनका सफलता झुक कर सलाम कराती है जैसे की कालिदास , तुलसीदास . सचिन तेंदुलकर , धीरुभाई अम्बानी . Bill Gates ,Steave jobs ,
कभी हम एक या दो प्रयास में सोचते है अब मेरे से ये हो नही सकता है सबसे पहले बल्ब का अविष्कार थोमस अल्वा एडिसन ने किया उस बल्ब की कहानी की पीछे एक सार निकल के आता है कि हमे बस अपने सजग प्रयास बार -करते ही रहने चाहिए
क्यों कि
“कोशिश करने वालों की की कभी हार नही होती ”
जिंदगी में ये बिलकुल भी जरुरी नही की हमे सफलता एक या दो बार में मिल जाये इसलिए लगातार इसके लिए प्रयास करने वाले ही उन ऊँचाइयों को पाते है जो इन दो बातो में विश्वास करते हैं मेरे अनुसार – कठिन परिश्रम होश के साथ ,दुबारा प्रयास ,(hard-work with awareness and try again )
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